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Love on the Road

Dear Philippa:

I work and live in another town three days every week and that has really put a crimp on maintaining a relationship in my hometown. Now I wonder if I would do better dating some guys in both cities. But what if I get serious with both of them?

�Chelsea, Seattle

 

Dear Chelsea,

I�m more concerned about your commitment to your lifestyle than to one man. Do you enjoy the variety of living and working in two places? Do you love your job? If you answered yes to these questions then I suggest you may not find an easy answer to your dilemma.

First of all I don�t understand why is it difficult to sustain a relationship while you are gone? Is it that the man in your life doesn�t like you being away so much? If you love your job and way of life, you may need to find a man who is in the same boat as you, a busy corporate or professional type that will understand and support your lifestyle.

Is your problem that you like having people to date in both places because you don�t like the loneliness of being on the road? That may be a given with your current lifestyle. That�s why I asked you how committed are you to the job and travel.

If you do decide to date people in both places then you�ll want to be up front with guys you meet in both towns. That also may put off anyone with more serious intentions. But maybe you aren�t ready for a serious relationship at this time. That�s fine too. Just be clear on what you want�a guy at home who loves and supports you or the fun and variety of dating more than one person in different places?

Life doesn�t need to happen to you, Chelsea. You can choose and create the life you want.

 

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